Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Life is Like a Slingshot

I was just thinking the other day how my life recently has been like a slingshot. You remember slingshots don't you? Before the days of computers and on-line gaming  kids actually used to go out side to play and many of us had slingshots. A little bit of rubber tubing with a leather pouch in the middle, tied around a wooden handle.  All you have to add is the perfect pebble. With your first try, you probably come up short...maybe you didn't pull it back far enough...maybe  you let it go too soon. Without practice, the pebble just flies out a short distance and falls flat, missing its target. But if you work at it, take your time, slowly pull it back, and back...slowly pull it back a little more until the tension is so great you think it will snap! Then you take aim and let it go and that little pebble, the one that fell so short last time, this time flies free, soaring through the air forward, and forward and it finds its target clean and exact.


I am that pebble and life has been that slingshot. At first, we were excited and anxious and we hurried forward towards a new job and a new life. Unfortunately things fell short of the intended target. My little pebble flew out quickly then dribbled to a complete halt, just as quickly. These past 9 months have felt like I've been slowly, slowly going backwards. Life was in limbo. The anticipation was building and building and the tension increased and the expectation grew...it felt like I was moving ever so slowly backwards and waiting, just waiting for something to happen. And now it has! It is as if I am being projected forward at the speed of light! I am finally flying free and heading for the bulls-eye! It's not going to last, this feeling of flying. The pebble always has to come down again. I know that but that doesn't mean I can't let myself enjoy the freedom and the exhilaration this slingshot into the unknown has brought. I'll deal with gravity and the sameness of things later. For now I am just enjoying the ride!

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Buddy Buys a Home

I guess the title of this post is a little misleading because Buddy isn’t actually buying the home, we are but it was Buddy’s sniff of approval that sealed the deal. I think I’m getting ahead of myself here so maybe I should just back track a little and give you a general idea of what’s been going on.

After months of feeling trapped, things have really taken off. It’s been a crazy busy time lately and the past week or so things have amped up even more. After almost 4 months of showing our house, we finally got a great offer. The problem is an offer is almost a tease...the carrot at the end of the stick...so close and yet so far!  The problem, if you can call it that, is that with an offer comes the waiting to have the conditions removed and fingers crossed that everything proceeds without a hitch. So for 10 days we waited, not-so-patiently on my part, for the buyers to remove their conditions. Officially they had until the 31st of March but with a closing date of April 27th, every day that went by was one fewer day we would have to find a home. By the middle of last week I received a phone call from the buyer confirming that he had secured the financing and the conditions were met. All that was left was to put that on paper to make it official. Those two days waiting for the paperwork were the worst yet.

You see, it wasn’t until I received word that the conditions were met that I allowed myself to hope that we were finally getting out of here. It wasn’t until then that I allowed myself to even look for houses. Scott and I both started our on-line search but there really wasn’t much out there, at least not in our price range and not in the area we were determined to live. We talked about Plan B – what to do if we couldn’t find a house but had to move out of this one. Once we had a plan in place to prevent homelessness, we continued our house search with a renewed sense of excitement.

I found a cute little cottage style home that had been partly renovated and was on a large acreage of wooded land. The only problem, aside from the fact that there already was a conditional offer in place, was that it was very close to the highway and across the road from an auto mechanic shop. Oh, and the only bathroom was upstairs but the master bedroom was on the main floor. Not perfect especially in the middle of the night when my evening tea gets me up. Oh well, on to the next one. Wait a minute...there isn’t anything else. Yikes.

And then it happened. Things began to fall into place. Bit by bit, little by little. It started when Scott found a couple of houses in the St. Margarets Bay area and although they were at the top end of our price range and I thought they were probably too large for us and too hard to heat, he seemed convinced that these places were worth considering.  He was actually brainstorming ideas of how we could make the finances work, that’s how certain he was.  I had trouble sleeping that night and ended up being awake for many hours, pondering the price, the location, looking at pictures of those places, over and over. By morning I was pretty certain that one of them was the house for us. Scott sure was surprised when I told him I had changed my mind. Why he was surprised I’m not really sure because I change my mind a lot so you would think he would be used to me by now. Thank goodness for his patience.

For those of you who know me, besides the fact that I change my mind a lot and I hate waiting, you would also know that once I decide something I like to act on it. I’m not one for pondering and moving slowly (which is something I should probably work on...one of these days) so I suggested seeing the house sooner rather than later. For Scott it was all moving way to fast but real estate is like that; when it’s hot, it’s hot!

I had previously connected with a couple of realtors in the Halifax area and had started a relationship with one in particular who had agreed to work with us in finding and purchasing our next home. After determining that we wanted to see the property right away, I called him to ask about a showing. Wouldn’t you know it, this was the one weekend he was going away!  The problem was I had a gut feeling that this house would not last long on the market. I was worried about waiting for 5 days until he returned and was free to show us the place.  Scott and I discussed whether we should wait or go ahead without him. We felt that he had given us a lot of his time and that we had a verbal commitment to him so it wasn’t a simple decision.

I called the seller’s realtor to get a sense of whether there was a lot of interest on the property and found that there had already been an offer within the first week of listing. Fortunately (for us not them) the offer fell through so the house was back on the market and already had two showings scheduled for Saturday. The realtor expected the house would be sold by the end of the day.  That’s when we made the decision to move quickly regardless of our realtor being away. I booked a showing for early Saturday morning so we would be the first people through. If it was the right house for us, I did not want to lose it.

I emailed our realtor (yes while he was supposed to be on vacation) to explain the action we had taken as this was going to essentially cut him out from receiving any commission. He was very understanding and went ahead and made a referral for us to a colleague of his so we would have representation. I booked a hotel room for Friday night and we planned on leaving right after Scott was finished volunteering at the Elite 10 curling bonspiel. I spent a tense day waiting for the final confirmation that the buyers had in fact removed the conditions of sale of this house. Without that, we were not free to put an offer on any house so our trip would be for nothing. It came down to the wire and we received email confirmation from the buyer’s lawyer at 2:30 pm Friday as we were set to leave at 4 pm. Talk about cutting it close!

We arrived at our Halifax hotel around 7 pm, checked into our room and enjoyed a dinner of meatball (vegan of course) subs and a nice cold beer. That’s when things got ugly. The pool was at the end of our hallway and it was open until 11 pm so there were people and kids up and down the hall for the entire evening: loud, laughing, screaming, running kids! After the pool closed, there was a party happening at the end of the hall in the meeting room with loud obnoxious drunks roaming in and out, slamming doors, laughing, and carrying on. How dare they have fun?! All kidding aside, it was a miserable experience and I don’t think either of us got a wink of sleep. I called the front desk at 2:45 am to ask about their noise policy or lack of one. The front desk was only 4 doors down from us so I don’t know why he sounded so surprised that I complained about the excessive noise. It can’t have been a surprise to him. Eventually the party seemed to have dispersed in time for the housekeeping staff to start work. We both felt like dirt when 7 a.m. came and we had to get up...note I say ‘get up’ not ‘wake up’. We managed to get on the road about 20 minutes later than we would have liked but considering we were semi conscious, I think we did not too badly.

When we arrived at the house, my stomach sank. I was so sure this was going to be the house for us but that first impression was very disappointing. There was nothing that I could see that didn’t need cleaning, painting or repair. What a mess - door handles broken, door frames scratched and dinged, screens bent, no closet doors in the bedrooms, the front closet door is falling off its track and can't even be opened although they were opening it because it has scratched the flooring there, lights don't work, old kitchen cupboards, even the shower head is missing!

Funny thing though - the longer we were there, the more things I started to see that I liked. Oh I know it’s going to be a ton of hard work, elbow grease and some money but as I looked around I started to notice that it checked off 26 ½  of my 28 items on my dream list. Twenty six and a half you ask? Well one of the items was a second bathroom and the plumbing is already in downstairs for a second bathroom so I count that as a half point.  Some of the other things on my list were: a new septic system (last year), a newer roof, an area for wine-making and stained glass work, lots of windows, a large backyard with good views (actually a view of the ocean through the trees), a big deck for sitting out in the summer, a driveway large enough to accommodate the trailer and both vehicles, newer windows, front foyer, 3 bedrooms, great location...well as you can see my list went on and on.

The true test was getting Buddy’s approval. We brought him in from the car and let him explore. He sniffed out everything and seemed very much at home with the place. He wasn’t nervous or anxious, no peeing, no barking. Buddy can be a sensitive little guy. He notices things, gets a little apprehensive about changes so we wanted to see his reaction to the place he might just be spending the rest of his life. It was fun really to watch him explore. Once the place got the Buddy Seal of Approval, it was pretty clear that we would be putting in an offer. And thank goodness we went with our gut and made the effort to be the first people in. Turns out the other people who viewed the house after us also wanted to put in an offer but ours had already been accepted. Timing really is everything!

I’ve always thought of myself as a bit of a vagabond but I have to say that selling and buying houses twice in less than a year has really made me long for stability and a place to put down roots. I am hoping that this will be our home for many years to come. Despite the fact that this house is a mess, the potential is there. After all, it’s not that I haven’t renovated and decorated before. Many times! At least this time we plan on staying. 22 Downie Drive might not be perfect (yet), but it’s perfect for us.




The Adventure Continues

Can you believe it has been almost a year since we headed out from Sidney, BC to seek our fame and fortune in Nova Scotia? Well we weren’t really seeking fame or fortune but a better job for Scott, one that he wouldn’t have to dread going to every day. That entire experience of selling our home, packing up and leaving our friends was a difficult one but the thought of something better ahead kept us excited and hopeful. For those of you who followed my previous blog, you will have read all about our trip across Canada and the highs and lows of moving to Port Hawkesbury.

Sadly the position that Scott came out here for did not turn out to be the right fit and so we have spent many months re-evaluating our life here and our options moving forward. We always said we wanted to end up living closer to Halifax but we had no idea when that would happen. Selling a house can be difficult in this small town and especially during the winter months. In fact we both worried that we might be stuck here forever since there are homes here that have been on the market for a year or more!  So you can imagine how lucky we feel and how excited we are to have sold our house.  This time we sold without the benefit of a realtor since the cost of doing business that way was more than we could afford. We used an agency called Property Guys who helped us every step of the way. The hard part is being here and showing people the house. It is such an invasion of privacy having people come through and ‘judge’ your home but I got used to it quickly and learned to talk money and options pretty comfortably. It was an adventure in itself but I’m thankful it’s over and we no longer have to show the house to anyone else. Now we can breathe a sigh of relief. We are finally getting out of here and it can’t come soon enough for us.

Despite the fact that life here in Port Hawkesbury hasn’t gone as smoothly as we would have liked, there have been some wonderful moments. If we hadn’t moved here we would never have had the opportunity to experience the down-home feel of Cape Breton. We loved the summertime here with all the Celtic music, live concerts in the park and so many wonderful historic things to see and do. From small fishing towns to homesteads and distilleries, we made a lot of great memories here. We took in a number of concerts in the Celtic Colours Festival last fall as well as attending the live outdoor concert by Meghan Trainor. We had beer in the local pub and watched Junior hockey. Scott joined the curling club and curled all winter and this past weekend he volunteered at the Elite 10 curling championship where all of Canada’s greatest curlers played. I swam in the ocean at Port Hope and we stopped in to the Red Shoe Pub for a beer. We visited Alexander Graham Bell’s homestead with my sister and we took my mother to the Celtic Interpretive centre for lunch and some good old East coast music. All in all, now that we know we’re going, we can look back and be thankful for this experience.

I guess the best way to view life is by not complaining about the hardships and disappointments but finding those things you are grateful for and that have enriched your life – the so called silver lining. I try to be the glass-half-full kind of a person but I’m not always successful. Today however I’m a full glass kind of a gal because I am overflowing with excitement and anticipation for the next stage of this adventure we call life!